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12 Steps To Take When You Feel Lost In Life

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Even the most charismatic people you know, whether in person or celebrities of some sort, experience days when they feel lost in life and isolated from everyone else.

While it’s good to know we aren’t alone in this feeling, the question still remains:

What should we do when we feel lost and lonely?

Why You May Feel Lost In Life

Feeling lost in life can be due to a number of different things.

It could be due to a traumatic experience such as a breakup or death of a loved one. It can also be due to a big life choice such as getting engage, changing your college major, dropping out, or moving to a new area.

Sometimes, we feel lost when simple, everyday life catches up with us. Maybe you are taking on too many things at once and have lost a sense of self.

Maybe you need to change your path because of the person you have grown in to. All these are valid reasons to feel lost in life.

Here are 12 things to remember when you’re feeling lost in life:

1. Recognize That It’s Okay!

The truth is, there are times you need to be alone. If you’ve always been accustomed to being in contact with people, this may prove difficult.

However, learning how to be alone and comfortable in your own skin will give you confidence and a sense of self reliance.

We cheat ourselves out of the opportunity to become self reliant when we look for constant companionship.

Learn how to embrace your me time: What Your Fear of Being Alone Is Really About and How to Get over It

2. Use Your Lost and Loneliness as a Self-Directing Guide

You’ve most likely heard the expression: “You have to know where you’ve been to know where you’re going.”

Loneliness also serves as a life signal to indicate you’re in search of something. It’s when we’re in the midst of solitude that answers come from true soul searching.

Remember, there is more to life than what you’re feeling.

3. Realize Loneliness Helps You Face the Truth

Being in the constant company of others, although comforting sometimes, can often serve as a distraction when we need to face the reality of a situation.

Solitude cuts straight to the chase and forces you to deal with the problem at hand. See it as a blessing that can serve as a catalyst to set things right!

4. Be Aware That You Have More Control Than You Think

Typically, when we see ourselves as being lost or lonely, it gives us an excuse to view everything we encounter in a negative light. It lends itself to putting ourselves in the victim mode when the truth of the matter is that you choose your attitude in every situation.

No one can force a feeling upon you! It is YOU who has an ultimate say as to how you choose to react: How to Control Your Thoughts and Be the Master of Your Mind.

5. Embrace the Freedom That the Feeling of Being Alone Can Offer

Instead of wallowing in self-pity, which many are prone to do because of loneliness, try looking at your circumstance as a newfound freedom.

Most people are in constant need of approval of their viewpoints. Try enjoying the fact that  you don’t need everyone you care about to support your decisions.

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6. Acknowledge the Person You Are Now

Perhaps you feel a sense of loneliness and confusion because your life circumstances have taken you away from the persona that others know to be you.

Perhaps the new you differs radically from the old. Realize that life is about change and how we react to that change. It’s okay that you’re not who you used to be.

7. Keep Striving to Do Your Best

Often those who are feeling isolated and unto themselves will develop a defeatist attitude. They’ll do substandard work because their self-esteem is low, and they don’t care.

Never let this feeling take away your sense of worth! Do your best always, and when you come through this dark time, others will admire how you stayed determined despite the obstacles you had to overcome.

And to live your best life, you must do this ONE thing: step out of your comfort zone. I understand that it’s not easy, so having a handbook like this – Motivation On Demand Handbook to walk you through will make your journey less challenging.

8. Don’t Forget That Time Is Precious

When we’re lost in a sea of loneliness and depression, it’s all too easy to reflect on regrets of past life events. This does nothing but feed negativity and perpetuate the situation.

Instead of falling prey to this common pitfall, put one foot in front of the other and acknowledge every positive step you take. By doing this, you can celebrate the struggles you overcome at the end of the day.

9. Remember, Things Happen for a Reason

Every circumstance we encounter in our life is designed to teach us and that lesson is in turn passed on to others.

Sometimes we’re fortunate enough to figure out the lesson to be learned, while other times, we simply need to have faith that if the lesson wasn’t meant directly for us to learn from, how we handled it was observed by someone who needed to learn.

Your solitude and feeling of lost, in this instance, although painful possibly, may be teaching someone else.

Related: What Should I do with my life?

10. Journal During This Time

Record your thoughts when you’re at the height of loneliness and feeling lost. You’ll be amazed when you reflect on how you viewed things at the time and how far you’ve come later.

This time (if recorded) can give you a keen insight into who you are and what makes you feel the way you feel.

11. Remember You Aren’t the First to Feel This Way

It’s quite common to feel as if we’re alone and no one else has ever felt this way before. We think this because at the time of our distress, we’re silently observing others around us who are seemingly fine in every way.

The truth is, we can’t possibly know the struggles of those around us unless they elect to share them. We ALL have known this pain!

Try confiding in someone you trust and ask them how they deal with these feelings when they experienced it. You may be surprised at what you learn.

12. Ask for Help If the Problem Persists

The feeling of being lost and lonely is common to everyone, but typically it will last for a relatively short period of time.

Most people will confess to, at one time or another, being in a “funk.” But if the problem persists longer than you feel it should, don’t ignore it.

When your ability to reason and consider things rationally becomes impaired, do not poo poo the problem away and think it isn’t worthy of attention. Seek medical help.

Afraid to ask for help? Here’s how to change your outlook to aim high!

Finding Your Way In Life

Take some time to self-reflect and think about some things that you want to focus on in life. Again, it doesn’t have to be a flashy goal. It can be effortless.

Whatever will truly make you happy and fuel your passion will work best. Reach out to a loved one or therapist to vent or for some guidance.

It’s important to take things slow and learn to protect your time and energy and say yes to things that are hell yes.

Most importantly, know that it is perfectly normal to feel lost in life sometimes and have that type of emotions.

Sometimes we have to sit through these emotions and simply let them pass.

Final Thoughts

Loneliness and a sense of feeling lost can in many ways be extremely painful and difficult to deal with at best. However, these feelings can also serve as a catalyst for change in our lives if we acknowledge them and act.

Above anything, cherish your mental well-being and don’t underestimate its worth. Seek professional guidance if you cannot distinguish between a sense of freedom for yourself and a sense of despair.

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