If I tell you that the reason why 2% of the people in the world succeed and 98% have failed is because of their self-image. What will be your thought about that? Have you ever wonder what that word call self-image means?
If, yes. You are at the right place at the right time. In this article, my goal is to show you how the small 2% of the population master their self-image and achieve massive success. It is not a skill but all of us can master it by training ourselves every day.
So what is Self-Image?
I have read a couple of books about this topic, meet several successful entrepreneurs. It seems like everybody has his own definition of what it means. For some people, it is what some people think about them, for others is what the thing about others. It is only when I did deep research that I found out the real definition. Your self-Image is what you think other people think about you.
Are you confuse? Me too I was let me explain it.
Let say, we have two individuals A and B. The self-Image of A isn’t what B thinks of him, it isn’t what he thinks about B, but it is what he thinks B thinks of him. So, the self-image of A, it is what A thinks B thinks of him.
Oooh, are you shocked? The reason is that we are in a world where people are always worrying about what other people think of them. We need to remove that pressure that we put on ourselves and really start doing what we want and really enjoy life.
Some people missed the man or the woman of their life because of their self-image. Some missed a job opportunity, or a business, even a promotion because they think there aren’t good enough. Stop putting yourself down, raise the way you see yourself.
So, Who is Affected by Having a Low Self Image? Introverted or Extroverted?
I’ve always been outspoken, and very extroverted. My dad, on the other hand, is very quiet and introverted.
When I moved to the US and started living with him, I used to think he was shy and maybe lacked the confidence to speak up, as I did. One year of living with him has shown me how I was very wrong.
While I have always bounced back and forth between lack of confidence and overconfidence, my dad has been very even-keeled, almost unshakeable. He doesn’t get fazed by what people say. His decisions are not dependent on what others think. He has such a high self-image that nothing seems to affect him.
I finally realize that self-image has nothing to do with being extroverted or introverted. It comes from a place much deeper, from within yourself.
As a consequence, there is no fast way or quick solution that can improve your self-image overnight. However, if you work consistently to improve yourself, no matter what the situation is, you can permanently increase your self-image.
Steps To Raise Your Self-Image
Well, I think it is time to take some serious note and implement it immediately. Those steps were actually inspired by my friend Sumitha. When she shares it with me, I was super excited and decided to implement it. I got a lot better about how to actually raise my self-image, and that is why I believe it will help each and every one of you.
1. Love Yourself, and Stop Pretending In Attempt to please people
Self-worth is so vital to your Happiness. If you don’t feel good about You, it’s hard to feel good about anything else.-Mandy Hale
Have you heard the quote “You can fool some of the people all of the time, and all of the people some of the time, but you cannot fool all of the people all of the time”? Knowing that someday you will be “found out” is what kills the self-image.
Hard as it is and vulnerable as you will feel, let go of your pretenses. Just be your authentic self. At first, the fear is crippling, but if you manage to get past the initial fear and take the plunge, it’s so liberating. And that freedom to be who you are, without excuses or pretenses, paves the way for much healthier self-esteem.
2. Learn to say no. Say what you mean and mean what you say.
This was actually one of my biggest issues. I felt like I have to say yes to everybody to be accepted or to make people like me. But I was very wrong.
Often we say yes because of the fear of authority, the fear of hurting someone’s feelings, or worries that we will let someone down. But every time you say a yes that you don’t mean, you’ll end up doing a half-hearted job. And then you are unhappy that you said what you didn’t want to say, and you are unhappy that you did such a lousy job of what you said you would do.
Break out of that habit. Instead, just say what you mean and mean what you say. You don’t have to be rude about it; just be firm and decisive. Developing the ability to speak your mind in a kind but firm manner, and to really deliver on your promises, will go a long way in building lasting self-image.
3. Grant yourself permission to make mistakes, and see them as opportunities for growth.
You can beat yourself up over a failure, or you can give yourself permission to make mistakes and vow to learn from them. Let’s face it, whichever route you take, you will still make some mistakes in your life. One approach chips away at your self-image; the other helps you become a better person. Which sounds like a better choice for you?
4. Take responsibility for your actions.
Again, at some point or the other in your life, intentionally or accidentally, you will let others down. When that happens, quit making excuses and accept them as a consequence of your choices. Quit the regret and focus on repair.
Always be prepared to say “I’m sorry” followed by “How can I fix it?” and make sure you put in a genuine effort to fix things in a way that is acceptable to everyone involved. It takes a lot of effort, but a healthy self-image is rooted in knowing that you always do the right thing.
5. Help others.
No amount of fortune, fame, success, beauty, intelligence, or strength can give you the same sense of personal gratification or a sense of purpose as a genuine “thank you” from someone you help.
When you stop being so wrapped up in your own worries, sorrows, and melodrama and start being a part of the bigger picture, with a role to play in this universe, your sense of self-worth and self-image gets a whole new definition. Give freely. Help whenever you can. You will get more than what you thought you ever needed.
6. Immerse yourself in whatever you decide to do. Quit worrying about your choices.
Either do something or don’t. Stop second-guessing your choices. For instance, if you want to make some tea, first learn how to make tea. Next, gather all the ingredients you need. And then make tea.
Don’t worry about whether it will come out right. Don’t worry if anyone will like it. Don’t worry about whether you are worthy of making tea. Don’t worry about coffee drinkers. Don’t worry if you will ever get to make tea again. Don’t worry about what you will do after you make tea. Just. make. tea. And when you are done, move on.
Constantly worrying about your choice as you make the tea will not do any good to you, the tea, or anyone else around you. Immerse yourself in what you do.
Your self-image is a measure of how worthy you think you are. Don’t look outward for affirmations. Set your own expectations of who you should be and then do all you can to live up to those expectations. You have it in you to be the person you can be proud of.
Commit to it and go become that person!